I've always kept my faith in love...
As far as I can remember, I've always been dreaming about my wedding day, my future husband, known that it is so much better to be a happy poor man's wife than unhappy with a rich man and divorces always made me feel so indescribably powerless and disappointed. I mean, how can anyone promise to love and to cherish in everything and forever and then just..not. Marriage was like a goal for me, or a must-have..or just a logical ending. I knew all the stories with princes and princesses and how first you get married and then you live happily ever after. Those things just would not happen without each other.
But then, not so long ago I started to actually think about it. I had blindly and automatically believed in something for so long, that it just seemed the only right thing, but I had never ever in my life thought about why I believe in it. And there I was, realizing what serious relationships actually mean to me. Being in a relationship is like being a half of a whole, not making decisions but negotiating and discussing things, making compromises, being all like 'what are we gonna eat for dinner tonight?' 'what should we do in the weekend?' and so on and so forth.. As well the thing about how husbands usually talk about their wives... you know, whit the nagging tone and being all unappreciative. And I wasnt sure if it is something I could handle.
Of course I could also not become one of those wives who's been talked about like that and who is not appreciated, but that too would take some effort and being very conscious about how you act and what you say and do and how much and when and..WHY?? Wouldnt it be so much better just enjoy life, have fun while it lasts and never ever get bored and into a routine? Live for yourself and take care and love yourself? And so I concluded that I dont do love..nor real relationships..and marriage is not for me. It might work for some people and that I found great but not just for me. Obviously, as a proper scientist/philosopher I took into account the fact that I'm just 20 and that I might reconsider so I didnt put all that much thought into all of it anymore for a while
BUT
I've never been more happier and satisfied and full of joy than I am when I'm in love; I find sleeping together with someone I love, even if it is awfully uncomfortable and too cold and too warm and too little blanket and too much snorting, being so much better than sleeping alone. I just love staying in on friday evenings to watch a movie or listen to music or to do nothing together with some one. I love how even on rainy days, with love, you still feel as if it'd be spring and always know everything is gonna be just fine. And I dont think life without friends is a life at all. We couldn't define ourselves as individuals without other individuals. We couldnt be without others.
This year's valentine's day I'm going to spend without a boyfriend. But I do have great friends to be with and great friends who are not physically close to me, but who I know are there for me to love and to cherish and nothing will do us part. And I have my family.
I'll always keep my faith in love.
After all, if not scientifically proven, then in practice more than enough, there's no better way of being healthy than being in love. First you just cannot eat, because your stomach is too full of butterflies. Then you dont wanna eat, because you wanna look nice for your boyfriend and be able to pull your belly oh so in. And then you just have so many alternative activities to eating, that you dont even think about it. You get your amount of physical activity and your body is full of endorphin :).
As mentioned, I do not have a boyfriend and therefore I have an actual plan and defined goals. Goes like that: Monday - uphill/downhill +stairs running; Tuesday - gym(with special focus to all the exercises I feel like - it is a Valentine's Day:)); Wednesday - jogging (with 2x1km running on time); Thursday - gym (with special focus on arms and stomach); Friday - chillbill downhill jogging for fun; Saturday - rest, but be sure that I do 10 000 steps at least; Sunday - 3km run to find out if a goal to do it under 15 min is suitable or too easy/difficult + jogging. And every run is followed by some exercises for arms - after all I am planning to one day do at least 2 push ups :D.
And as I have once again proved the fact that if you wanna buy all the books school wants you to buy, pay all your bills on time, look decent (even if you do not give in to the crazzzzy temptation and wont buy any new clothes), eat just enough to stay alive and be socially acceptable - going out for a coffe (and you do limit the times only to twice a month) and be qualified as a normal student -attend at least one party a month ( i know its awfully few), it is impossible to ever have any free money. Therefore the rest of the month's menu should be just fine as well, as I just dont have the money to buy anything I wont need.
So to all of them, who'd like to know how to eat cheap and healthy - I have a feeling this blog might be a good source of inspiration in February ;D.
And to end this post, a song that a guy once showed me. It's a song sang by a guy who promised to marry a girl. Just before their marriage day the girl had an accident and got a serious brain damage. The guy is still with her :).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQY4dIxY1H4
Happy Valentine's Day, everyone :)
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