Skinny bitches and fat cows

Oh my god. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YDakFfLQDF4

Is it okay that even social activities and surroundings are according to the weight class? Body weight is so important that we don’t even look at the individuals inside and purely judge based on weight. Are we developing two opposing cultures – cultures of bodyweight?

Bigger people have separate parties, training sessions, meetings and fashion shows, just because the others make them feel not normal and bad, to “hate themselves” . It is almost like a war – people against people, fighting over the right to feel good about themselves.  I think just because there is more of them, and because the rich and successful people we usually hear about in social media, are amongst them; plus that they have authorities like doctors and health politics and fashion industry “backing them up”, the skinny ones are “winning” – dominating in the world, and it is a social norm to be skinny or normal weight. It is viewed as better, more right.

That also might be due to the different personality traits people of different weight classes usually have.  Whereas (going to the extremes) anorexic people usually have very high self-control and they are always trying to control things, feel  positive, doing the right thing, people with bulimia or binge eating disorder (overeating with or without compensating) tend to be more impulsive, have lower self control and usually feel that their behaviour is wrong. Then it’s only logical that the skinny ones are dominating. They feel happy and in control, and looking down on fat people makes them feel even more so. Overeaters, on the other hand, are more vulnerable and already in doubts about their behaviour. Also, it is not so easy to look down on fit people – they seem so happy and successful, in control, because we also live in a society where fit=beautiful=good. In a way body says everything about one’s physical characteristics and level of beauty, but also who one is inside.

But if the body is such a big part of the whole individual, then how come or why, does everyone else seem to have so much right to say how it should look or be? In the end, it is one’s own body. It IS oneself. So shouldn’t the decision of how it should look also be one’s own?  After all, we don’t go around promoting other individual characteristics like “happy is good, be more happy” (at least not so much after the hippies :D), making angry people feeling bad about themselves and even more angry. And we don’t have a “angry tax” or things like that. Somehow, it is only the body weight, that seems to be such a public interest.

I don’t know how to conclude this here. Are the cultures going to separate even more? Is it gonna be better? Worse? Is okay as it is?

I think we should just remember that body, beauty and personality are not all just one thing, and that people are not all similar nor can we divide them into precise categories. Just like beauty, health comes in all shapes and sizes. Maybe we should all cool down a little bit on that topic and, once again, remember that mental health is also health. Maybe the big people should think consider if the discrimination in society really is that big or is it them experiencing and making it feel so; and by distancing themselves from people with smaller bodyweights, only making it a problem? And people of normal weight and good health should just continue what they’re doing but not turn so much attention to it? It’s like “being healthy” is an activity now, a thing to do. And apparently even such a big thing to do that sometimes it can cause so much stress that the amount of physical and psychological stress diminishes the benefits it would have and should have, making “being healthy” unhealthy. (I’ll write more on that some other time)

We spend so much time and effort on focusing on our bodies, that we don’t have the time to look around ourselves and see other people (like myself writing in last year concluding post that maybe I trained so much that I didn’t really leave enough time for my friends). We focus on ourselves and bodyweight and get stressed and depressed (“hating myself”), angry and are not nice to each other.
We should be friendly, happy and healthy instead. And maybe just a little bit hippie.
At least I am. J :D

Happy Thursday, everyone, have a nice weekend and be nice ;)

k.